My Book

What White Parents Should Know About Transracial Adoption:

An Adoptee’s Perspective on Its History, Nuances, and Practices


The White Fragility for transracial adoption–practical tools for nurturing identity, unlearning white saviorism, and fixing the mistakes you don’t even know you’re making.

If you’re the white parent of a transracially or internationally adopted child, you may have been told that if you try your best and work your hardest, good intentions and a whole lot of love will be enough to give your child the security, attachment, and nurturing family life they need to thrive.

The only problem? It’s not true. What White Parents Need to Know About Transracial Adoption breaks down the dynamics that frequently fly under the radar of the whitewashed, happily-ever-after adoption stories we hear so often.

Written by Melissa Guida-Richards–a transracial, transnational, and late-discovery adoptee–this book unpacks the mistakes you don’t even know you’re making and gives you the real-life tools to be the best parent you can be, to the child you love more than anything.

From original research, personal stories, and interviews with parents and adoptees, you’ll learn:
    What parents wish they’d known before they adopted–and what kids wish their adoptive parents had done differently
    What white privilege, white saviorism, and toxic positivity are…and how they show up, even when you don’t mean it
    How your child might feel and experience the world differently than you
    All about microaggressions, labeling, and implicit bias
    How to help your child connect with their cultural heritage through language, food, music, and clothing
    The 5 stages of grief for adoptive parents
    How to start tough conversations, work with defensiveness, and process guilt

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